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Uncovering Your Invisible Cultural Stories

Understanding Your Multicultural Experience

Do you ever feel caught between two worlds? Many immigrant families carry invisible stories—unconscious rules from childhood that create inner conflict.

You might find yourself questioning: Am I honoring my heritage or betraying it? How do I raise children who belong everywhere and nowhere?

Sometimes, our reactions and relationship challenges are influenced by “invisible stories” from childhood—unconscious blueprints for understanding the world, shaped by our family and cultural background. While we might not consciously remember them, they still guide our choices. In cross-cultural families, these blueprints might include unspoken rules about loyalty, communication, or success from a heritage culture, sometimes clashing with new rules from the adopted culture. Understanding these deeper influences empowers us to make more conscious choices about how we want to live now.

Sometimes, our reactions and relationship challenges are influenced by “invisible stories” from childhood—unconscious blueprints for understanding the world, shaped by our family and cultural background.

My Approach: Walking Between Cultural Worlds

My personal experience offers deep understanding of what it means to live between cultures. I work alongside immigrant families as they integrate their heritage with new realities.

In our sessions, we address core challenges like acculturation stress and identity conflicts. We support both those who have built new lives and their children who often bridge two cultural worlds.

Together, we discover how your multicultural experience isn’t a divide—it’s a valuable capacity. A source of strength, deeper empathy, and inner balance.

Bringing Hidden Stories to Light

We’ll explore the “invisible stories”—unconscious cultural echoes that have shaped your choices. Sometimes, as these patterns become clearer, people find they can respond more consciously rather than just reacting.

This work often involves understanding how family patterns—even from previous generations—might influence how you respond today. Some people discover they have more choices than they realized.

The process looks different for everyone, but many find they can begin navigating family expectations while still pursuing what matters to them personally. What if you could release some of the burden of “never being enough” for either culture?

Many people in this work begin to notice subtle shifts—less second-guessing of everyday choices, moments where they show up more authentically, whether that’s speaking their native language without apologizing or setting a boundary with extended family that actually feels right.

Some people develop what we might call “cultural agility”—the ability to honor your heritage at family gatherings while also setting boundaries that feel authentic to you. A growing capacity to move between different contexts with more intention.

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